There are so many things that can cause a musician to become discouraged, and not only can it come in the form of situations and circumstances, but also other people who don’t necessarily share your interest in music. Being a musician of any kind can be very rewarding and enjoyable on one hand, and on the other hand there are times when a musician can feel very isolated and cut off from the rest of the world, because although millions of people love to listen to music, those that can understand the amount of practice, dedication and commitment that it takes to become musically proficient are few and far between.
It is easier in some respects to find common ground with other musicians that you have joined or formed a band with than it is with friends or that special someone, because your band mates understand your dream whereas anyone else will eventually tell you that you need to quit dreaming about being a successful musician and go get a job. It doesn’t help matters any that not all that long ago there was a commercial that aired over the television airwaves that featured a man who was a musician, and for whatever reason, maybe he was recently fired or laid off from his job, but he was playing his Violin on the sidewalk, trying to earn some money and a very rude kid walks by and insultingly says to him “Get a Job.”
Sadly, the attitude that the kid in the commercial displayed is all too common place in our modern society, and countless musicians have had to hear other people, strangers as well as those that claim to love and care about them hurl similar insults or disparaging remarks such as “Well, Good Luck With That” at the very least. Music, even if it’s only done on a local level is very competitive and even that alone can be enough to make some musicians want to throw in the towel and call it quits, and if that’s not enough to do the trick, then having to deal with the business end of things might be.
The thing is that there is nothing that is 100 percent enjoyable 100 percent of the time, even if it’s something we really enjoy doing the majority of the time. But, if you can find a way to push through the frustration and stave off depression, things can turn around, but to what degree they will turn around is unknown, and it will no doubt be different for everyone. The musician has to at some point get real honest with themselves and figure out if the music is something they want to do as a hobby or a career. Either way, a person can still enjoy playing their instrument of choice.
Today, you can choose to “Slam The Door Shut On Discouragement” and open up to a better day to day reality. You see, if we allow others to tell us that playing music is just a pipe dream then we actually lose one of the things that make us truly unique, and if that happens we will only have ourselves to blame. I personally believe that there was a reason why I had the desire to start learning how to play the guitar, to practice and to try to go as far with it as I possibly could and I believe the same thing about other musicians as well. Neither you nor I picked up the guitar for absolutely no reason at all, there was, in fact, a very good reason, and I am not talking rock stardom here.
For some people, learning to play an instrument takes the form of them joining or forming a band, for others it could be a way of socializing with friends or family members, or they just want to learn to play their favorite song. Whatever the reason and whatever your level of experience might be, and you very well might be one who is just starting out, there aren’t too many disciplines like music, and although it will require a lot of you, it also gives a lot back where enjoyment is concerned. So, take things one step at a time, one day at a time and enjoy the process.
Taking all this into consideration, the position I take on this matter is that it is always good to surround yourself with like-minded people as frequently as possible. Now, it may take a little bit of time for you to become connected to other musicians whose musical style and level of dedication match yours, but they are out there, and the same thing can also be said where people being supportive of your musical dreams are concerned.
A couple of other things to keep in mind that are extremely important are that only limitations that you have are the ones you place on yourself, or that you allow other people to place on you, and that you are your greatest competition, because there is a constant battle going on in your mind where your self-confidence or the lack thereof is concerned. Stay Strong My Friends!
Lastly, remember to “Slam The Door Shut On Discouragement.”